2 Samuel 19

In 2 Samuel 19, King David is reeling from the death of his rebellious son Absalom, despite the victory of his loyal men in battle. His excessive mourning demoralizes his troops, who risked their lives to protect him and restore his throne. Joab, David’s commander, confronts him sharply, warning that his misplaced grief—prioritizing his treacherous son over his faithful supporters risks alienating those who love and serve him (v. 6). Joab urges David to acknowledge his men’s efforts to restore morale and unity. David heeds this advice, rises from his grief, and publicly honors his troops, regaining their loyalty.

Acknowledging and appreciating these individuals not only strengthens our bonds but aligns us with God’s purpose for our lives. David’s initial failure to honor his men’s efforts nearly cost him their loyalty, reflecting how neglect can erode trust and open doors to division or destructive attitudes. Similarly, when we prioritize temporary or unreciprocated relationships over those who consistently uplift us, we risk broken homes, strained support systems, and unfulfilled destinies. Joab’s rebuke to David—“you love those who hate you and hate those who love you” (v. 6)—is a sobering reminder to cherish those who genuinely stand by us. David’s shift in mindset, honoring his supporters and extending mercy, restored unity and strengthened his leadership. Likewise, appreciating those God has placed in our lives fosters healing, builds trust, and paves the way for the destiny God has predestined

David shows mercy to former enemies like Shimei and Mephibosheth, and appoints Amasa, a former rebel, to lead his army, fostering reconciliation across Israel. We can see how this little action helped in David’s restoration as king, but tensions persisted, as seen in the tribal disputes between Judah and Israel, foreshadowing future division. Brothers and sisters, the importance of valuing those God has placed in our lives—loyal supporters who stand by us through it all. Be it friends, family, husband, wife, mentors or anyone at all that is always there for you, or even is going be there for you, needs to be always motivated by you through your acknowledgement and genuine apprection. Remember their unwavering support, sacrificially guiding you through challenges or encouraging your growth. Look at it introspectively and appreciate, then let it flow outside to others.

QUESTION

Child of God, who in your life has been a steadfast supporter, and how can you actively show appreciation to strengthen those relationships and align with God’s purpose for you?